Couples Therapy
Relationships are hard. If you’re looking at this page you probably realize it. People often seek supports such as couples counselling due to struggling with conflict and communication, and being tired of being caught in similar patterns and cycles that are not only improving, but as our lives become more complex, are actually intensifying and getting worse. There are a number of patterns that we can fall into, and behaviours that can often make these patterns of conflict worse, such as becoming defensive, stonewalling, or responding with criticism or contempt.
Seeking support with couples counselling does not mean your relationship is broken. There is a belief that we should be able to manage our concerns on our own, but if there is a problem with something, simply leaving it and hoping it resolves itself might not be an optimal method. The right time to go to a mechanic when the check engine light comes on isn’t when our vehicle is no longer able to move, but when the light initially comes on. Have the concerns assessed, replace the parts that might be contributing to the check engine light, and get back on the road.
I have training in Gottman Couples Therapy (level one and two), as well as some training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Both of these methods aim to improve the connection, emotional attunement, and communication between the two of you, while reducing the negative emotions that often accompany recurring conflict.
It isn’t that either one of you are ‘the problem’ in couples therapy, and I cannot magically change your partner. What I can support the two of you with, is improving your patterns of communication, connection, and improving the levels of trust and commitment in the relationship. If you have questions, or want to chat, click the button below and lets get started.
